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30th November 2021 
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Counselling and Psychotherapy in Andover, Hampshire & Farnham, Surrey

I offer both online counselling and face to face counselling at my practices in Farnham and Andover.

A very warm welcome to you and thank you for accessing my website. Life can throw up many challenges and I am able to offer a safe, supportive environment for adults, and young people, to talk through and make sense of what they are finding difficult. Sometimes, if the words are just not there, we can use creative tools to process what is happening.

I hope that I will be able to offer you the support that you need at this time, or if I am not the right counsellor to help you, I will endeavour to make a referral for you.
For more commonly asked questions and to read what previous clients have to say, please click here

How I work
My approach is holistic, meaning that I like to focus on you as a whole person: mind, body and soul. Together we might think about how your current concern is affecting you in each of these three areas and how that affects your view of yourself, or how your concern affects your relationships with those people in your life. You might want to explore how experiences from your past influence the decisions and actions you take now, and together we can work on whether you'd like to change any of those automatic responses. My particular areas of interest are:

  • Attachment related issues
  • Sexuality and gender issues
  • Relationships
  • Anxiety and Panic Attacks
  • Depression
  • Low Self Esteem
  • Bereavement and loss
  • Abuse, and
  • Trauma.

    As a BACP registered counsellor, I am committed to providing a confidential and non-judgemental space for you to talk about whatever is on your mind.


    Location and Parking
    I have been a practising counsellor for the past 15 years, both in England and abroad.
    My practice in Andover is within easy reach of Newbury, Romsey, Stockbridge, Whitchurch and Winchester. There is on street parking available and my practice room is a peaceful cabin.
    My practice in central Farnham is on a bus route, and parking at Central Car Park is a two minute walk away.



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    "It doesn't happen all at once," said the Skin Horse. "You become. It takes a long time. That's why it doesn't happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real, you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand."
    - The Velveteen Rabbit, by Margery Williams



    Who do I work with?
    I work with both adults and young people on an individual basis, with the aim of enabling you to enhance your life and to live it more fully.

    Students from both Andover and Farnham schools and colleges have said that they prefer coming to me privately so that they don't have to face intrusive curiosity from peers. Similarly, clients from the Armed Forces and emergency services prefer to access therapy away from the work arena.

    What are the next steps?
    If you have decided that I might be the counsellor for you, then either email or call me and we can book an assessment appointment where we can decide together if I am the right therapist for your current concerns.
    Your privacy is important to me. When providing me with your contact details, please ensure that the details you provide are ones you're happy to allow me to leave messages on.



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    Reflective Practice Groups

    Reflecting confidentially on your work within a group of 3 or 4 counsellors
    Connecting with other professionals
    Committing to your continuing professional development

    Reflective Practice Group still looking for 1 new member. Next meeting on Friday 10th December 2021 @ 9:30 - 11am on Zoom. Meeting monthly thereafter
    Cost: 15 per session
    RSVP by 1st December 2021 for the zoom link



    Workshops

    For more information on workshops I have planned, please click here



    Making the Most of Your Therapeutic Hour

    The therapy hour
    Clients sometimes ask what they can do in between sessions to keep the momentum going. This blog is written in response to those requests, I’ve tried to give you an idea of what you can do to optimise the therapy experience.
    To begin with, talk to your therapist. It may be that doing little or nothing between sessions is perfect for you right now.
    However, if you’re in a place where you feel you’d like to support the process, here are some suggestions: • keep a journal • make a timeline of life events • draw an emotional family tree going back several generations — a visual way of depicting your familial relationships, showing how well you relate to your family members and how the generations have related to one another • make a list of things you’ve achieved during your lifetime and a list of things you’d like to have done better • make a note of any interactions that didn’t go as well as you’d hoped (who said what to whom and how you felt and behaved as a result) • if you’re depressed or anxious, keep a daily schedule of activities that made you feel better or worse over the course of a week and bring it to therapy • reflect on what happened during your therapy session • bring along some items that have some significance for you and your identity or place in the world • dig out some childhood photos of you and your family to bring to your therapy session so we can look at them through a psychological lens • if you begin to notice meaningful coincidences, these can be noted and brought along to your session for exploration

    Journaling
    Keeping a journal can be a transformative experience and is a very useful tool when you are in therapy. Journaling is the practice of writing down your thoughts and feelings for the purposes of self-reflection and self-discovery. It’s an ancient practice, dating back thousands of years. It’s a superb way of recording your memories, feelings, thoughts, and desires. Try doing it without worrying about whether you’re spelling correctly, or whether your grammar is good. Write as if no-one will ever read it (no-one needs to).
    Here are a few ‘starter’ questions: How am I feeling? What issue(s) do I face right now? Is there a lesson in this situation that I’m currently experiencing? What qualities do I need to dig down and unveil to deal with it? What unhelpful thoughts are triggering my current feelings?

    Dream journaling
    Freud called dreams “the royal road to the unconscious”. Dreams are a treasure trove of guidance. Buy a journal and keep it by your bed to record your dreams.
    When you wake from a dream, try these tips: • make recording your dreams a daily habit, preferably first thing in the morning • when you wake up, keep your eyes closed for a few moments to avoid any extraneous material entering your mind before you can record your dream • make a note of the emotion you felt when you woke from the dream - this is sometimes the emotion you need to ‘wake up to’ • if you can only recall a tiny scene from the dream, just record that • withhold all moral judgements about your dreams • don’t edit elements which don’t seem to fit into the story • draw what you saw • give the dream a title - this can help you notice emerging themes • look out for unintentional puns • take your dreams along to your therapy and try presenting them early on in the session, rather than mentioning them at the end; this way, you can work with your dreams and become your own dream interpreter